chippytune asked: Why is bisexuality such a difficult concept for people to grasp? It doesn't involve sorcery or mathematics. It's literally just liking two completely different things. If you listen to and enjoy death metal there is no rule anywhere that says you can't also listen to and enjoy classical music. You're allowed to like steak and ice cream. Why do most people have to create a massive halt in conversation to question and doubt the legitimacy of the exact same concept when it comes to sexuality?
I didn’t know there was that much of an issue about it. Are people really arguing over this?
As someone who took well over a decade to finally admit just to myself that I also like women, it is an actual thing. A person can be attracted to both men and women at the same time. I can look at a picture of an attractive man, and think, “DAYUM, I’d like to hit that!”, but I can also look at a picture of a woman, and think the same thing.
I do think some people may be confused about the definition of bisexuality, as I’ve seen it be described as “being able to put your hand down someone’s pants, and like whatever you find”. But, that would actually be closer to pansexuality, because it disregards all other aspects of gender (secondary sexual characteristics, androgyny, and just overall gender identity of that person). Though I may be mistaken, I believe bisexuality refers to the attraction to cisgendered males or females (hence the “bi”, meaning “two”). Pansexuality, meanwhile, encompasses all gender identities, whether they fall into the gender binary or not: Ergo, if they find a penis on a person that also has breasts, it’s a complete non-issue, because they aren’t limited in their attraction.
I think of it like appreciating classic cars with their original frames, or being able to appreciate them when they’ve been customized with body kits, or other features. Some folks like lowriders, or custom rims, because the car is still beautiful in any form, while some have a preference for the original model, because that’s just what they find the most visually pleasing.
Of course, it becomes a delicate line of sexual politics here, because there may be an assumption that a bisexual person somehow has anything against trans or non-binary people, or believes such individuals can’t be sexually attractive, which simply isn’t true. After all, there’s a difference between embracing all people as who they feel they are as human beings, and what psychologically arouses a person’s sexual desire.
I may not personally care for the taste of chocolate when I want something sweet, but that doesn’t make it any less delicious for anyone else. :3
Why can’t anyone else come to this conclusion? Why does it always have to start a war somehow when people don’t agree on sexuality?
Like holy hell someone finally fucking nailed it. At least that I’ve seen. I’ve seen a lot, and I mean a lot of arguing about sexuality and acceptance. And up until now I have not seen someone come up with a (calm) conclusion that makes it really hard not to agree with.
I’m used to seeing people:
A) Fuel it with the over-emotional “Oh you should think this way because ___(internet hoax story of someone being hurt/bullied because of their “advanced” high-horse sexuality)___”,
B) Slap it on in the form of a three-or-four-part label that demands immediate respect and acceptance, and with no prior knowledge about the existence of this newly-discovered (cough*made-up*cough) sexuality,
and C) Usually teenagers who adopt these things like Angelina Jolie’s kids.
But it’s not fair just attacking the kiddos here. Adults are just as responsible, but they’re on the ‘anti’ end of the extreme sex spectrum, which for now will be dubbed #SEXTREME SPECTRUM.
See, a lot of grown assholes who, much like teenagers, can’t calmly discuss sexuality are prone to sheltering big, fat high-horses about it. They’re the ones who actually make a difference, because their fucking high-horses are usually wearing armor like “religion” and “the bible” and “the ability to vote”. So unfortunately, these grown-ass people make it that much harder for sexuality to be a private thing to which anyone is entitled freedom.
And also unfortunately, these adults are also prone to having high-horses named “Violence” or “Egomaniacal Obsession With Controlling Your Offspring’s Sexuality”. And sometimes it’s the same fucking horse either way. So what do you think in turn inspires these kids to bleed their hearts to social media, a place where they can’t be moderated for whatever little thing their parents don’t agree with? It creates a full-blast rebellion that gives these kids the ability to be whatever unrealistic cartoon character with imagined authority they want to be. And the real-world result of that…. can’t be good.
It makes me happy that someone like Tenaflyviper can calmly assess sexuality like a pro. But it scares me to death that she’s one of the few that can on this website.
Smash Bros! Better Than Ever!
So let me say something about Smash Bros here.
Smash Bros, as a series, is one of those that has truly shown us players what progress (in video gaming) really is. The series is the epitome of gaming progress, and while it might just be my opinion, I’m going to say that we can all agree on that, at least. I say this because the series has made a huge leap with every entry; every time it’s released, it’s something special.
Picture it. The first quarter of 1999, Super Smash Bros. hits our living rooms and gives us a fresh alternative to the arcade style fighters like Mortal Kombat and Street Fighter. With this title, Nintendo broke tradition in the best way possible.
In 2001, the first sequel, Super Smash Bros Melee was released and damn, we were wowed. I mean to say, it was the best selling game on GameCube. And how do you even compete with a game like that? The graphics were amazing, the gameplay was tight and edgy (although many will agree that it was almost too tight). Not to mention how improved it felt in comparison to the original. The graphics were amazing at the time (and when you consider the quality of visuals now, they’re still very valuable when you use them to objectify progress). When you talk about progress in video games and making huge leaps, you talk about Melee and sing its praises the highest. When you think about replay value, you think about Melee, and how many afternoons you spent with your friends and family playing day in and day out. It’s a game that many of us can remember about home.
And Super Smash Bros Brawl took off in 2008, reminding us again of that gorgeous progress that we had come to expect from Nintendo’s franchise. To give this assertion some substance, look at the sales figures for the franchise thus far: The original title sold 5 million units in its time. Melee capped it at 7 million (reminder that this game was best-selling on its own console). Brawl sold 12 million units, more than double the original title, and nearly twice the previous title. The graphics, (despite Nintendo’s insistence that the high-definition visuals that were the calling cards of rival consoles, weren’t everything) still impressedand showed off the capability of a casual console. The gameplay itself was less frantic and gave way to a massive wave of new, casual players, especially due to its inclusion into the world of online play. This option alone gave players a much bigger battlefield than just their own living room. The new story mode gave solo (and co-op) players much more to do, and the greater attention paid to the solo campaign made for higher praise. This game gave us all so much to remember, because in five years or so, someone else will say the same for Brawl that I say for Melee and its place in our childhoods.
So the year is now 2014 and due soon is yet another installment in the series. Except this time the playing field has changed considerably. Not only are we given even greater online ability, with the addition of the “For Fun/For Glory” modes (created in response to playing habits picked up on after Brawl). But we are now given the option of portability- a handheld version, just as capable as all its predecessors and then some. That alone is enough progress to nail down Nintendo’s tradition of exceeding expectations.
But let’s keep talking here. The newest title, even just the standalone on the 3DS, is definitive of Smash Bros as a series. It’s not exactly shown. It’s not really something you can put into words, at least not at 1am on the internet. It’s just… felt. It’s the most natural feeling gameplay I’ve experienced so far. There’s a nice balance between the tension of Melee's controls and the floatiness of Brawl's. And it feels so clean and refined. I'm not frustrated with something that moves too quickly or too loosely, it just feels right.
Now, I know a lot of people have differing opinions on this. I won’t combat anyone for feeling something different- I think everyone has a play style that fits them, and that’s fine. But I will sit here and brag about this new one for as long as I have to. I just feel that good about it.
Even though I’ve only played the demo, I think that’s all I need, honestly. My mind’s made up, and I’m certainly pleased with how this game plays. But enough’s enough, I’m done bragging. For now.